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  • No, I’m Not a Mommy

    Thursday, March 26, 2015 75 Life baby pressure, egg freezing, family, fertility, freezing your eggs Permalink 0
    Baby Fever from "No, I'm Not a Mommy" on The Girl Next Door is Black | Photo credit: drolesdemums.com

    In the past 6 months I’ve received various inquiries into the state of my womb, specifically about the fact that it’s empty.

    When visiting my mom* on the East Coast recently, I reconnected with an aunt whom I haven’t seen since I was a kid. I warmed to her immediately; her personality fills a room.

    [*I have two moms through a remarriage (dad’s) – one on the East Coast, one in Texas (with dad).]

    After exchanging pleasantries and hugs, my aunt said,

    “Keisha, you don’t want no husband or children?” It didn’t seem so much a question, but more of a statement of fact. The implication being that if I hadn’t done it by now, I’m not going to.

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  • Take That, Mrs. No-Target

    Thursday, March 19, 2015 32 Giveaways, Life co-workers, gift cards, giveaways, Oprah, party planning Permalink 0
    Raffle Tickets Photo cr: Alyson Hurt, flickr.com | The Girl Next Door is Black

    Years ago, I volunteered on the entertainment sub-committee for my job’s annual summer party. One of my tasks involved coming up with giveaway prize ideas: a few high-value “grand” prizes, and enough door prizes so that almost everyone left a winner.

    Before purchasing the prizes, my committee shared our ideas with the larger planning group. The list included gift cards from Target as a few of the door prizes.

    One of the alcohol sub-committee members wrinkled her face at the mention of Target.

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  • The One Who Got Away?

    Thursday, March 5, 2015 22 Life crushes, memories, Pearl Jam, puppy love, summer camp Permalink 0
    A Trip Down Memory Lane from "The One Who Got Away?" by The Girl Next Door is Black

    I met a guy at summer camp during the break between my freshman and sophomore year of high school. His name – I won’t tell you – but, I’ll say that he’s named after an American city. Ok, fine, let’s call him Trenton, just because. I even remember his last name, which isn’t a common one. I couldn’t tell you the name of my first grade teacher, but I remember his name.

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  • I Can’t Eat All of That!

    Thursday, February 19, 2015 26 Life diets, dining out, Eating, eating habits, fad diets Permalink 0
    Giant Burger "The Big Sloppy" photo by spilltojill, Flickr.com | The Girl Next Door is Black

    The server threw me a questioning look as he observed my half-full plate.

    “Was everything okay with your meal, miss?”

    “Yes, it’s fine. I’ll just take a box please.”

    “Oh, you can eat more than that! You barely touched it!”

    I glanced down at my plate, then my stomach. I’d stuffed all that would fit in the compartment.

    “Hahaha, no really you can take it,” I said, pushing the plate further away from me.

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  • The Incredible Story I Heard About My Ancestors

    Tuesday, February 10, 2015 10 Culture + Society, Life #JourneyofYou, african-americans, ancestry, black Americans, black history Permalink 0
    Photo cr: "A Guy Taking Pictures" flickr.com | Bright Orange Flower with Water Drops

    Lately, my dad is prone to falling into reflective reveries during which he shares stories from the past with a forthrightness that is surprising given how miserly he’s been with details previously. He’ll affect what my sisters and I call his “Professor [Our last name]” voice and begin his oration: “You know, Keisha, our family…”

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  • GoodBye Weave; Hello Curls!

    Wednesday, January 28, 2015 48 Life beauty, Beyoncé, big chop, black hair, black hairstyles Permalink 0
    Solange Knowles Before and After Big Chop

    The beauty shop has never been a place of relaxation or pleasure for me. I associate it with chemical smells, scalp burn, lots of time spent waiting around, listening to catty gossip about the lives of strangers, and hours of sitting in the same chair forced to make conversation with someone pulling my head, knowing that any personal details I share might become future salon fodder.

    Once, a braider yanked my hair so hard she PULLED SOME OF MY HAIR OUT OF MY SCALP! It’s been years and that hair still hasn’t grown back right.

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  • Seeing Broadway’s First Black Cinderella

    Monday, December 8, 2014 12 Celebrity Sightings, Culture + Society, Travel, US Travel African American, black american firsts, black Americans, black women, Broadway Permalink 0
    Cinderella Broadway Playbill Autographs | The Girl Next Door is Black

    When I heard of Keke Palmer’s casting as the first black Cinderella on Broadway, I didn’t imagine I’d end up seeing the show in person!

    It was a girls night out: sisters and groups of friends; an adorable Girl Scout troop of mostly pre-tween and tween black girls and quite a few mother/daughter pairings attended. One little girl dressed like a little lady wearing pearls and donning an updo, accompanied by her very chic and sophisticated mother who wore an enviable black cape, melted my heart. I attend a lot of plays and as I snarked to my sister, “I don’t think I’ve ever seen this many black people at a play in my life.” I’m so used to being one of few.

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  • What It’s Like Being Single During the Holidays

    Thursday, November 20, 2014 29 Life Christmas, Facebook, Facebook envy, family, Friendsgiving Permalink 0
    Slice of Sweet Potato Pie | The Girl Next Door is Black

    “C’mon ladies, you can do this! 15 more seconds! Think about all the delicious Thanksgiving food you’ll get to have next week. I just made a butternut squash casserole last night to test out and it was so tasty. There’re sweet potatoes, macaroni and cheese, turkey – which I don’t even really like…Why do I have Thanksgiving food on my mind?” My bubbly Pilates instructor gabbed on about Thanksgiving as we held our planks what felt like the longest 15 seconds in history. A classmate chimed in: “You have one week and a day!”

    What did she say? I cocked my head to the side as we moved on to triceps exercises on the tower.

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  • Who Owns A Story?

    Tuesday, October 28, 2014 40 Life blogging, current events, Elon James White, ethics, musings Permalink 0
    Journals, Moleskin Photo cr: Barry Silver, flickr.com | The Girl Next Door is Black

    During the great American spanking debate of September 2014, Elon James White wrote a thought-provoking piece about his experience getting spanked as a child. He writes of the “pain and distress” he recalls feeling during belt-whoopings. As I read it, I wondered:

    How does his mother feel about him telling this story?

    In a world where neighbors call the cops on parents who let their kids play outside, he “outed” his mom as a former child-spanker.

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  • What Happened to OFFline Dating?

    Thursday, October 23, 2014 29 Culture + Society, Life, Pop Culture acting, black women dating online, dating, longreads, Match.com Permalink 0
    What Happened to Offline Dating | The Girl Next Door is Black

    Does anyone meet anyone in real life these days? Offline? For dating purposes, that is. You know like:

    Guy sees cute girl at bus stop.

    Guy makes joke about the horrid stench wafting from a black trash bag near the bus shelter.

    “Ah, the sweet smell of street funk and human waste,” he cracks.

    Girl giggles. She relaxes her street defenses.

    They discover they share a preference for puffy Cheetos over crunchy. “This is awesome,” they both think.

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  • Scenes from the 2014 Treasure Island Music Festival

    Tuesday, October 21, 2014 4 Life, Pop Culture, San Francisco 2014 music festivals, Andre 3000, Bay Area, bay area weed smokers, Coachella Permalink 0
    Treasure Island Music Festival Stage 2014| The Girl Next Door is Black

    When my friend asked if I’d go with her to the Treasure Island Music Festival, I surprised myself when I said, “Yes.” After my one and only experience at the Coachella Music Festival a few years ago, I all but swore off large-scale music festivals. Between the heat, the parades of douchery, the posers (people who literally seem as though they are just there to pose), the flower headbands, the Native headdresses on non-Natives, the spilled beer, sloppy drunken fools, the long lines to get just about anything and my general dislike of unruly crowds, I must have temporarily lost my memory to agree to this. Of course, it didn’t hurt that my friend’s face lit up as she gushed about how much she loves André 3000 of Outkast, one of the headliners of the two-day concert.

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  • 10 Tips for Making Friends as an Adult

    Monday, October 13, 2014 51 Friendship adult friendships, Brony, friendship, hard to make new friends, how to make friends as an adult Permalink 0
    10 Tips for Making Friends as an Adult | The Girl Next Door is Black

    Making friends as an adult is difficult for many of us. People date, marry, procreate, change, drift and relocate. Growing up, my family moved at least four times and I lived in three different states. While being the new kid often isn’t easy, it seemed so much simpler to make friends in school.

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  • Why Glasses Aren’t Just for Nerds and Ugly Ducklings Anymore*

    Tuesday, October 7, 2014 4 Life 80s movies, advertorial, eyeglasses, eyewear, glasses Permalink 0
    whiskey tortoise warby parker durand eyeglasses

    You know the film/TV trope of the ugly duckling? Usually she’s got braces or other distracting face gear, as well as a hot mess of a hair situation (easily remedied by a brush and hair products) and topping off her tragic look: hideous, over-sized glasses. She’s a nerd; an outcast. Boys ignore her. Girls make fun of her. People pin “kick me” signs on her. One day, fed up with being a social misfit, she decides it’s time for a change.

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  • Why I Stopped Playing Fantasy Football

    Tuesday, September 23, 2014 17 Life concussions, dating, Fantasy football, female fantasy football players, National Football League Permalink 4

    An ex-boyfriend of mine loved fantasy sports. He had fantasy teams for baseball, hockey, basketball and football. Almost year round, he dedicated a not insignificant portion of his focus to tending to his fantasy team(s), football especially. Initially I found his fantasy hobby curious and amusing. So, this is what some of the male species spends their time doing? Fascinating. He’d get so passionate watching a football game – though I couldn’t figure out why he didn’t seem to root for one team consistently. “I don’t really have a favorite team. I just need my players to score me points!” Uh, ok.

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  • How I Broke Up with Comcast (Well…Kinda)

    Thursday, September 18, 2014 4 Life AT&T, Bravo, cable, cancel cable, cancel Comcast Permalink 4
    Photo cr: Photo cr: Jason Rosenberg, flickr.com How to Cancel Cable | The Girl Next Door is Black

    Circumstances forced me into a relationship with Comcast when I moved here. In Los Angeles, I’d been a loyal DirecTV customer for years. Unfortunately, when I tried to transfer service and have a dish installed in my new place, the DirecTV installer shared his dreadful assessment, “San Francisco sucks for satellite! The building behind you is blocking the signal. Can’t hook you up.” Then he told me I should move back to L.A. because he hates San Francisco. Uh…thanks for the welcome, homie!

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