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Why The Girl Next Door is Black?

Well, often when people reference “girl next door” they’re not talking about someone black. Here’s what may be shocking news: sometimes, the girl next door is…black. I know, it’s a lot to wrap one’s head around. Let it sink in. You okay? Alright, cool.

I thought about naming this blog: “You Talk Like a White Girl,” or “Uppity Negress,” but I didn’t think either of those really captured me, nor did I want to scare people off; they make me laugh though.

Ultimately, just like everyone else, black people have varied interests, concerns, backgrounds and experiences. We even get darker with prolonged exposure to the sun!

On TGNDIB you’ll find posts on everything from travel to pop culture to my triumphs and travails in daily life to race and gender (I’m a black woman living in the US; it’s unavoidable) and other socio-political issuesIt’s rare that I don’t have an opinion on something.

About The Girl Next Door is Black

Who am I?

I’m Keisha (“Kee-shuh”, not to be confused with Ke$ha). I live in Los Angeles San Francisco, California, but I made my way here via a looooooong journey through several states, beginning with New York, a pit stop in the South, and some quality time in Texas (which most Texans will say is not “The South, it’s Texas!”).

I’m told a smart woman never reveals her age, and even though I don’t really care, I’ll play coy and say that depending on who’s doing the categorizing I’m in generation X or generation millennial. Make of that what you will.

I love to quote rap lyrics. Have you listened to rap? These dude/ettes have the most hilarious one liners. I could probably hold an entire conversation just quoting rap songs.

I also like food and I can be snobby about it (but not snooty, there is a difference); whether I actually have good taste is debatable. Sweet and salty foods together are a winning combo. I recommend Sour Patch Kids and butter popcorn.

Alfred Hitchcock movies are awe.some (but, I still haven’t seen Psycho or The Birds. “What? How is that possible?!” I know, right?).

And, in keeping with my gender’s stereotype: I love shoes. They are a gift sent from…well, whatever force you believe is responsible for all that is good in the world.

I am sometimes sarcastic (some would say “witty”). My humor tends to lean either dry or straight up goofy. People who don’t understand sarcasm might say I’m trying to be funny to cover being mean. I say, “nah,” but you can decide for yourself when you read my posts.

I have taken to making up words. The English language, for as many words as it contains, lacks some essential expressions to capture the depth of things. Have you ever tried describing the relationship between you and your mother’s cousin’s daughter’s husband? There should be a word for that! Like Momdauhus! It even looks German! Did you know we use a lot of German expressions in English?.

That’s great and all, but fifty-eleven people have a blog, why should I read yours?

If you*:

  • Like to have your thoughts provoked
  • Love a great conversation
  • Enjoy grins & giggles
  • Want to be my neighbor
  • Are sitting in a cubicle, in a meeting, or at home bored

then this is the blog for you!

*None of these are mutually exclusive

Thank you for taking the time to visit! Lovely to have you. Leave a comment if you like what you read; I love to hear from people!

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Last Updated: February 2016

79 Comments
  • AfroMum
    October 3, 2015

    Great blog! Being a new blogger, I’m sure I can learn from your blog πŸ™‚

  • Megan Premo
    June 18, 2015

    I am so glad I found your little corner of the internet. I love your blog.

  • Kelly Symone
    April 19, 2015

    Hey! Found your blog from Twitter’s #SundayBlogShare. I, too, am an uppity negress, lol! Nice to meet you πŸ™‚

  • Regina Sayles
    March 19, 2015

    Sorry about the name mix-up Keisha. That’s precisely what happens when you’re writing and watching Scandal at the same time. It seems I may not have writer’s block after all. πŸ˜‰

  • T. Espinoza
    March 4, 2015

    How are we not friends? I giggled the entire time I read this. You wooed me with your wit and proper grammar. You are now my friend in my head and I shall cyber-stalk you and you’ll just have to deal.

  • A Free Bird Leaps
    February 17, 2015

    ‘We even get darker with prolonged exposure to the sun!’

    HAHA awesome x

  • lifeofatravelingnavywife
    February 7, 2015

    Next time in San Francisco, please, I have got to take you to lunch or for drinks. Or for something.

  • sourgirlohio
    January 30, 2015

    I am on that Gen X/Millenial cusp as well. It’s nice to be able to identify with either generation whenever I feel like switching it up:)

    You have a very interesting, upbeat blog!

    • The Girl Next Door is Black
      January 31, 2015

      Yay, anoher one! I like this cusp thing – even though sometimes I feel we’re overlooked.

      Thank you for the nice compliment!

  • edwinasepisodes
    January 17, 2015

    Hi Keisha. I really love your blog, as well as your sense of humour, and would love to nominate you for the Versatile Blogger award. http://edwinasepisodes.com/2015/01/17/episode-110-the-versatile-blogger-award/

  • trininista
    January 10, 2015

    I like Uppity Negress. lol. I tell people here I am that bourgie or “stush” black girl. Deal with that!

  • mistytaste
    December 22, 2014

    Hey Keisha, I really enjoyed reading your posts about you and your adventures setting yourself up as you moved around. Love your humour too! I look forward to reading more.

  • levraphael
    November 29, 2014

    I feel exhausted by outrage about the Ferguson farce of a grand jury. The transcripts point to major prosecutorial sleight-of-hand but what’s going to happen? Zip. And people are moving on despite the nationwide stats about what the police do and are and have become. That’s one reason I wrote my 25th book: http://tinyurl.com/lj8s7lu.

  • Norm 2.0
    November 23, 2014

    Hello Keisha and thanks for the visit and follow on my blog. I’m looking forward to seeing more of your work here too.
    Cheers πŸ™‚

  • Vashti Quiroz-Vega
    November 21, 2014

    Hello Keisha! It’s so nice to know more about you. You have a great blog. Thank you for following mine. πŸ˜€

  • Kennedy DeSousa Photography
    November 21, 2014

    It’s a pleasure meeting you! Wonderful blog! I look forward to reading about more of your adventures.

  • Sandee M.
    November 12, 2014

    Thank you for the follow! Glad you stopped by so that we can be blogging neighbors.

  • blips
    November 11, 2014

    Love your stories and humor (Also love San Francisco)
    Greetings from a old white geezer that could have been living next door. πŸ™‚

  • artnsmt
    November 9, 2014

    Totally love this ! New to the blogging world and so happy I found this on Sitsgirls !

  • Uncle Spike
    November 5, 2014

    Hello…

    I was recently β€˜told off’ by a blogger (not a follower I might add), who said my style of β€˜welcome’ note was very much against blogging etiquette. Hmm, well I hope not to cause offence, but as you volunteered to become a follower of Uncle Spike’s Adventures, I just wanted to catch up and say β€œthank you, and that I appreciate your β€˜follow’ as there are so many interesting and entertaining blogs out there.

    Blogging since June 2013, my aim is to deliver an eclectic offering of posts, from my β€˜point n shoot’ attempts at basic photography, to the sharing of my travel adventures over the decades, as well as day to day happenings here on our farm in Turkey. Oh, plus a few observations, opinions and lighter-hearted stuff thrown in for good measure.

    I normally keep to a couple of posts a day, maybe 3-4 at weekends if I have something special to share. But if you are at a loose end one day, maybe you’ll enjoy trawling through some of my older stuff too. I have added plenty of categories to help in said digging process. That’s not me trying to be pushy or β€˜spamming’, but just want you to know what I’m all about.

    Thanks again and hope you have a great day…
    UNCLE SPIKE

  • Priyam
    November 2, 2014

    Glad you linked to he hobnob and that I got introduced to your blog. Loved reading about you.

    -Priyam @http://priyam-simplejoys.blogspot.com

  • Holly McCall {McCall Manor}
    November 1, 2014

    You are hysterical! You can live next door to me anytime!! I highly recommend Birds and Psycho. They are both worth the time!!
    Glad I found your blog!!!

    • The Girl Next Door is Black
      November 1, 2014

      Thanks, Heather! I know eventually I will get around to watching those two films, I just gotta prepare myself for the nightmares that are sure to follow. πŸ˜‰

  • edwinasepisodes
    November 1, 2014

    Hi Keisha. Thanks so much for liking my blog. I enjoyed reading about you, and love your sense of humour. I too like to use a bit of sarcasm at times (mind you, being English, I think it is in my blood)! I will definitely be visiting your blog again soon. All the best!

    • The Girl Next Door is Black
      November 2, 2014

      Hi Edwina, thank you! I hope you do come back for a visit. πŸ™‚

      Great name, btw! I think it was just on a list of names that should make a comeback.

      • edwinasepisodes
        November 2, 2014

        Edwina is actually my middle name and apparently it was the name of a mad aunty of my mum’s! Still. as old-fashioned as it is, I think it’s quite pretty. Yes, it should make a come-back πŸ™‚

        • The Girl Next Door is Black
          November 2, 2014

          It is very pretty. Dignified.

          Lol @ “Mad Aunty.” I find that I am reading your comments in a British accent (in my head, out loud – I am terrible). I know someone that I think would qualify as a mad aunty. I think that from now on, I will refer to her as “mad aunty” and use a (terrible) British accent when I say it. πŸ™‚

          • edwinasepisodes
            November 2, 2014

            Ha Ha! Would love to hear that.Anyway doesn’t everyone have a mad aunty, somewhere in family (probably hidden away somewhere though)! I am a mad aunty myself to 10 nephews and nieces, and make it my business to try and show them up every now and again!

          • The Girl Next Door is Black
            November 2, 2014

            Anyway doesn’t everyone have a mad aunty

            Yes, but I would just call her a “crazy aunt.” “Mad Aunty” has more…flourish. πŸ™‚ (Goodness, 10 nephews and nieces!)

  • Emilio Pasquale
    October 31, 2014

    I don’t care if you’re black, or white, or (just having seen Wicked) green. I might draw the line at purple, though (except those aliens in Avatar were rather attractive. But maybe they were blue). What I mean to say is that I like this post and I like your humor. I’m a poor white boy who lived in New York and Southern California and, if you don’t mind, plan on following you for awhile.

  • wersojourners
    October 31, 2014

    Thanks so much for stoping by and liking my post

  • rlcarterrn
    October 29, 2014

    I love Alfred Hitchcock too & yet I haven’t seen “The Birds” or “Psycho” either!! I thought I was the only one. πŸ™‚

  • Epic Wynn
    October 27, 2014

    Thank you so much for liking my post. Not just because I like getting likes but because your blog is amazing. I kinda wanted to say this privately because i didn’t want to make the other bloggers jeleous…
    I haven’t been this excited about a new (to me) blog in a while. So thank you. Alot.

    • The Girl Next Door is Black
      October 28, 2014

      ​That is an epic compliment. Thank you!! I hope you continue to like what you read. I enjoyed what I read of your blog so far. πŸ™‚

  • The Girl in Long Shorts
    October 24, 2014

    Hey there, thanks so much for your recent comment on my piece on Aidichie. I LOVE your blog and will absolutely be following you in the future. Actually, what you’re doing here sort of reminds me of what her character did in Americanah πŸ˜‰ Keep up the good work!

    Ashley

    • The Girl Next Door is Black
      October 24, 2014

      It’s funny you say that about Americanah. When I read some of the “blog entries” in the book, I found it so similar to my line of thinking it was weird. Thanks for the kind comment! πŸ™‚

  • theRevCK
    October 17, 2014

    This is awesome. And I love the name of your blog.

  • Humble Coder
    October 16, 2014

    Love your blog! I’m so glad you enjoyed my recent post – otherwise I wouldn’t have found you. πŸ™‚ Keep it up!

  • rodi (Rob and Diane)
    October 15, 2014

    You go girl; love the attitude; love the free spirit;
    Thanks fro stopping by my blog ; I look forward to following yours

  • HRTrendster
    October 15, 2014

    Your blog looks super cute! I completely relate to you, and I too describe myself as a late genXer/early millennial (depending on who’s asking and what they’re talking about). It really is a unique place to reside in this world. I also quote rap lyrics, just because… lol. Great website!

  • aunnielauren
    October 14, 2014

    This was fun! It’s like we did lunch without either of us eating or being present. I feel like I’ve made a friend. High five!

    Looking forward to reading more πŸ™‚

  • Lotus
    October 2, 2014

    Love the name of your blog and the idea behind it πŸ™‚

  • theh2obaby
    March 8, 2013

    I don’t Follow every blogger who Follows me, but your About has totally grabbed me… so much of it could β€’beβ€’ me, despite being white and not a fan of the sound of rap enough to listen for the lyrics. Mmm, hmm. Thanks for checking out I Call It My Art. I look forward to digging into TGNDIB.

  • The Wanderlust Gene
    October 7, 2012

    Rap? Even white girls uhrm, women of a certain age, have been known to wax lyrical about the poetry of rap, especially to her younger, hipper friends! Nice to meet another aficionado – and thanks for the follow – I can see I’ve got some Tanzania reading to do. πŸ™‚

  • Kat (@wanderkat)
    August 21, 2012

    You are off & running! Lovin’ the blog and the swanky acronym. Can’t wait to read more…

  • Eileen Deissig
    August 13, 2012

    Woo hoo! You got your blog set up so quickly and you have CONTENT!! It took me months to get to this point. Can’t wait to read the musings of the sassy black girl next door. xoxo

  • Heidi
    August 13, 2012

    Love it!

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